Don’t Be Afraid of Missing Out – An Introvert’s Perspective
“Learn to enjoy being with yourself. ”
– Shana Lee Gibson
Don’t be afraid to miss out.
Sitting here, I ponder how many quiet moments I’ll take this holiday season.
I’m somewhat of a recluse, and my loved ones know to search for me—halfway through a gathering—in a person’s book nook or uninhabited room. It’s only a short time before, like birds, everyone starts flocking in, and I’m face-to-face with reality.
We’re all here to catch up. It’s been at least a few months – years for some of us.
Do I look for an escape plan or settle in and chat?
After all, it’s a couple of hours tops. Socializing will soon be over.
Joining the conversation, I’m reminded that politics should never be a dinner topic lest someone choke mid-sentence at the thought of a certain party gaining power. I’m passionate about my views but don’t hold a degree in political science (like some of my relatives) and don’t want to.
By night’s end, we’re all hugs – promising to do it again the following year, and I realize I’ve genuinely enjoyed myself.
Take time for solitude during the holiday season.
However, when it comes to work parties or social gatherings—with karaoke machines, entertainment, and an itinerary—I’d rather be at home learning about the Universe, gazing at the stars, or meditating.
As a classic introvert, I’ve learned that I need to limit social events to protect my peace.
Once alone, it can be tempting to scroll online, so I make a point of tidying up to make a cozy corner for tea and reading. No phones!
Reading enhances imagination and creativity. Research shows that staying engaged in a book for 30 minutes rewards your brain with focus instead of distraction.
My favorite Christmas classic is The Second Coming of Christ by Paramahansa Yogananda.
Our brain is a muscle that needs exercise.
If we stop challenging our brains, our attention span suffers– every aspect of our lives is impacted, from work performance to health to communication.
Reading, walking in nature, drawing, cuddling pets, watering plants, watching birds, or knitting can help us reconnect with ourselves (regardless of proficiency) to anchor into peace and clarity before we fall back into the habit of busyness.
As you contemplate 2025, what joyful habits do you want to bring into your life and what energy-draining habits do you want to break?
What inspiring books will you be reading?
“Don’t let time slip from your hands. Educate yourself, train yourself, and most of all, have fun with yourself.”
―Renuka Gavrani
In appreciation for your being here,
Shana Lee